Friday, August 13, 2004


I sit here excitedly awaiting the Olympic's opening ceremony and comtemplating the past couple of days. I think I will make this short and just leave some thought and questions.
Situation: I'm at work with coworkers that I have grown very fond of, despite our disagreements of values and morals. As I leave, one who is working later than I, sweetly asks me to do a quick favor for her and run across the street to buy a pack of cigarettes. What do I do?

And, a simple question. Is it possible for guys and girls to just be friends? Ok, maybe a little more to this one - Christian to Christian, non-Christian to non-Christian, & most curious to me: Christian to non-Christian. Is friendship possible?

Feedback is desired.
Maybe some more background to this later, but for now, I'm watching the Olympics. Ciao!


Amy said...

Situation: It's up to you. While cigarrette smoking is not healthy, neither is eating junk food or not getting enough sleep. I don't think it's any more wrong than any of those things... You've made a decision not to do it, and of course you don't want your friends doing it. I think the decision lies in whether your refusing to do the favor will make a point to your friend or just annoy her. Well, I guess if you feel really strongly about it, than don't do it, regardless of your friend...
So I don't know. Ignore everything I just said.

As for the question...
"Platonic" is one of those words that kind of loses it's meaning after you think about it too much. So I looked it up on and found that platonic="a pure, spiritual affection, subsisting between persons of opposite sex, unmixed with carnal desires, and regarding the mind only and its excellences."
In that case, I would say Yes, definitely, platonic friendships are possible in all capacities. Because I've had them. And still do.

the end.

Matt said...

Well my dear Caryn I was in the same situation that you were/are/might possibly be in. If you don't want to then just tell them, they shouldn't have a problem with it. I personally when and bought the guy the cigarettes, I made it known to him that I don't smoke and don't approve of smoking. I think the only reason I really did it was because I had just turned 18 and I could. In the end it is up to you. I personally wouldn't do it now because I can't stand smoking and destroys the temple, etc.

I think it is possible for guys and girls to be friends and our little rag-tag group of people is evident of that. That is in my own opinion and based on my experiences. I have never really had many good non-Christian women as friends. Maybe a couple in my short lifetime, it seems to be a bit harder than with other Christians. Hope that helps

David said...

What Amy said about the cigarettes dilemma more or less expressed my own opinion.

I personally think that completely platonic relationships between guys and girls are impossible, but I largely hold that perspective because I have found myself incapable of appreciating a girl's personality without simultaneously recognizing her attractiveness. Though I may not constantly think about the possibility of a relationship or have strong romantic feelings for a girl, I can never completely forget the distinction between our sexes and the implications that distinction creates. I am perfectly willing to admit that my own condition (frailty?) biases my argument, however.


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